I'm a 63-year-old woman and I'm having problems with confidence. I have never been a very outgoing person, but lately this has extended to my family. I love them all very much, but when they visit, I feel totally uncomfortable and relieved when they go.
我是位63岁的老太婆，我一点都不自信。我从来都不是一个外向的人，但近来，面对家人时我都会变得不自信。我很爱他们，但当他们过来看我时，我感到十分不自在。他们走时，我却松了一口气。I feel the same with my husband, who's only home at weekends. I have to go to work, as I need the money, so I do cleaning for elderly people in their homes.
我和丈夫的感受一样，他只有周末的时候才在家里。我不得不工作，因为我需要钱啊，所以我给年纪大的人打扫卫生。I can't even go to the doctor, as I just have no confidence with people, although I have to go once a year because I have type 1 diabetes. Even then I worry about it for weeks beforehand and on the day of the appointment I feel so panicked.
我甚至都无法面对医生，因为我没有信心与人相处，虽然我每年都要去一次医院，因为我患有1型糖尿病。即使那样，去之前我都得担心好几个星期，预约当天，我感觉十分恐慌。
It feels so silly to get to my age and be like this when other people seem to have gained confidence over the years. I feel so ashamed of the way I feel and cannot tell anyone except my husband. What do you suggest?
到了我这个年纪，这种感觉是很蠢的，尤其是看着其他人随着岁月的流逝变得越来越自信时。我为自己的感受难为情，但除了丈夫，我无人诉说。你有什么建议吗？
It sounds to me as if you could be suffering from anxiety, and there's a talking therapy called cognitive ?behavioural therapy that's effective.
听上去您好像患有焦虑症，有一种叫做认知-行为疗法的谈话治疗十分有效。Why not do some research online - the mental health charity Mind has some great information on anxiety and panic attacks. And why not schedule a call with your doctor in the first instance and talk over the phone about how you're feeling?
为何不在网上搜索一下呢--心理健康慈善机构Mind对焦虑和恐慌发作十分了解。为什么不首先和你的医生打个电话，在电话中聊聊你的感受呢？If you're on medication that may also be having an impact. Plus, speak to your family - they will want to support you. It's not silly, you're experiencing genuine mental and physical distress. But I think keeping it to yourself is making you worse.
如果你在服药，那这也是一个影响因素。另外，和家人说说话吧--他们会支持你的。这一点都不蠢，你只是在经历真正的身心痛苦。但我认为，自己默默承受只会让情况更糟糕。Just because you're 63 doesn't mean you're immune to certain feelings or conditions - every stage in life brings challenges. It's good you've recognised that the way you're feeling isn't normal - that's the first step to getting better.
虽然你63岁了，但这并不意味着你对某种感情或症状免疫了--生活的每个阶段都会有挑战。你能意识到自己的感受并不正常已经很好了--这是好转的第一步哦。Now you need to gather a bit more strength and share how you feel with your doctor and your loved ones.
现在你需要集中力量，与你的医生和所爱之人分享你的感受。