Are you good enough, clever enough, good looking enough? If you think not, would you consider your answer to be objective? Are you one of those people who has an inner critic that Satan would be jealous of? Well it’s time to see yourself as you really are; gifted, worthy and capable of anything you chose to be.
你是不是足够优秀、足够聪明、足够美貌呢？如果觉得不是，你能否给出比较客观的回答？你是不是内心深处也有着色厉内荏的自责？好吧，那你该真正认识自己，做回那个渴望成为的聪明优秀而又能干的你了！Time to put an end to yourself criticism and look at yourself objectively.
是时候停止自我批评、客观看待自己啦。Follow these 7 steps below and you will be lacking in confidence no more.
试试下面7个方法，你会一直自信满满！
1. Monitor the Negative Voice
1. 留神消极声音Start by monitoring your negative voice. Notice when you are self-critical, and observe the conversations that go on in your head. When you become aware of the conversations, you can then work on changing them. Your job is to ensure that the voice in your head is positive and supportive at all times and not negative and critical.
首先请留神自己的消极声音吧。看看自己什么时候会自责，并且当时心里是怎么想的。一旦弄明白当时的想法，你便能作出改正了。你要确保自己随时都能保持积极有益的想法，而不再消极自责。2. Friends & Family
2. 亲朋好友Ask your family and friends for their honest opinions about what your strengths are. What do they think you are good at? What were you good at when you were a child? If you want an extensive review, write out a checklist, and ask them what they think of you in the listed areas. Ask a couple of people and then you can see if the opinions are similar—just make sure the person you ask is not someone who is jealous of you or would have any reason to hurt or offend you.
请亲朋好友如实评判你的优点：他们认为你擅长什么？小时候你又最擅长什么？你要是想深刻反思，可以列出一张清单，针对列出的条目征询亲友对你的评价。多问几个人你才能找出方向一致的答案——当然，那些嫉妒你或有可能伤害侵犯你的人就不必去问了。3. No Comparisons
3. 不攀比Don’t compare yourself with others—it’s a recipe for disaster. You only need to be good enough for you, so it doesn’t matter what you sister, brother, friend or enemy has achieved. Make your own standards and set goals that are right for you.
别将自己跟他人作比较——这只会自取烦恼。你只需做最好的自己，根本不用管你的姐妹兄弟、朋友对手如何成功。你得有自己的准则，只选取适合自己的目标。4. Journalling
4. 写日志Take a long look at yourself and write a page describing yourself. Journalling can be a great way to look at yourself objectively. Tell your story like it belongs to someone else. What do you honestly think you are good at? Nobody has to see what you write, just write for you. Write down all of your past achievements—start with last year and write about anything that went well, and then extend the list year by year, making sure you include all of your achievements.
认真反思自己，写下对自己的评价吧。写日志就是客观评价自己的好方法。试着以局外的眼光审视自己：坦诚而言，你觉得自己擅长什么？你的所思所写不为任何外人，而只为你自己。写下过去你所取得的所有成就——从去年开始写起，写下一切顺心的事情，然后逐年追溯，直到写完所有成就为止。5. Personality Assessment
5. 性格测试Do a Personality assessment, like the Myers Briggs or DISK personality profile quizzes. These assessments are a great way to understand yourself and to see how you fit in in the world; your personal strengths will become more apparent when you are familiar with your own personality.
做个性格测试吧，比如Myers Briggs或DISK性格小测验。这些测试有助于你了解自己并更好地融入生活。当你了解自己的性格时，个人优点也便更为突显。6. Create a Positive Environment
6. 营造积极环境Make sure that you surround yourself with people who love and support you. If criticism is coming from external sources, remove yourself from the environments that encourage negativity. If you don’t have any friends or family members who inspire and uplift you, join a community that will. There are many groups, both online and offline, that have been formed to encourage people towards a happier and positive life; join one.
确保你周围的人都能关爱支持你。如果有外界批评侵扰，那就离开那个消极的环境。如果你的亲人或朋友都不曾鼓励或支持过你，那就加入能支持你的团队吧。不论是网上还是现实中都有很多鼓励人们积极快乐生活的组织，加入他们呗。7. Drown Yourself in Positivity
7. 让周围充满积极Create affirmations that uplift you. Post positive messages to yourself all over your house and work, and every time you say something negative to yourself, replace it with positive thoughts or words. The most important thing to remember is that you are in control of your thoughts. Any past negative patterns can be broken but you must fill the void with positive supportive thoughts and words. Remember that it’s important to be happy with who you, are and to achieve things in life that are right for you. So get a bit of perspective, look at yourself objectively and learn how to be happy with who you are.
给自己以积极的肯定吧。你可以在房间或办公室贴上积极的便条，每次消极情绪来袭时就想想那些积极的思维或言语。千万别忘了：你就是自己思维的主宰！任何过去的消极模式都可以被打破，都能换成积极有益的思维或言语。能欣然接受真正的自己并为恰当的目标而奋斗非常重要。所以，请换个角度客观审视自己，学会愉快接纳自己吧！