take a back seat
A:Lily thinks that the job takes a back seat to the family after she is married.
A：莉莉认为结婚后家庭为先，工作处于次要地位。B:She must be a good wife.
B：她一定是一个好妻子。
A:Not necessarily. This is only what she says, not what she does.
A:那也未必，说归说，做归做。B:I see.
B：我明白这个道理。